100 BDSM Punishments For Adventurous Couples

What are BDSM Punishments? 

BDSM punishments are consensual consequences a submissive receives after breaking a rule, or simple as part of BDSM play. They can be physical, psychological, or service-based (tasks). In this guide, we’ve categorized the following punishments into different categories, so you can quickly find what fits your dynamic. I suggest you check out the table of contents and start with the category that most suits you to save some time.

Tip: If you want to find out which BDSM Punishments you and your partner both like, I recommend taking our free sex quiz for couples where you only see the activities you both matched on in the results. 

Disclaimer: This content is for consenting adults only and is provided for informational purposes. Always ensure the submissive can breathe freely at all times, that blood circulation is not restricted, and that nothing risks permanent injury or damage. If anything feels unsafe or unwanted, stop immediately and prioritize wellbeing. Keep RACK and SSC in mind for every punishment, and research each one thoroughly before you try it.

Pain-Based BDSM Punishments

• Give them multiple spankings with your bare hand 
• Use a wooden or leather Paddle to strike their butt or thigh 
• For a sharper pain, use a leather whip 
• Floggers are great for beginners and can be used safely on more body parts than other punishment toys 
• Make them wear nipple clamps 
• Use wax stripes to remove their body hair 
• Place Legos on the floor and force them to walk over them
• Alternatively, use eggshells
• Stuff their mouth with a gag, and any other hole with a dildo or butt plug
• Drip hot wax onto them - use safe candle wax specifically designed for skin

• Lightly choke them with your hands
• Alternatively, use a BDSM Collar with an easy release system to choke them
• Make your sub kneel on rice, Legos or eggshells
• A cold shower or a cold bath 
• Use ice cubes on their nipples 
• Use a sounding rod on their urethra 
• Cool down a safe metal dildo with cold water or the refrigerator

• Use a cane for impact play 
• Pinch their skin with clothing pins (not the ones with needles)
• Use a needle to rip out hairs one by one - eyebrows are especially painful 
• Create a gruesome workout plan for them
• Make them hold a book over their head for a long time

Bondage-Based BDSM Punishments

• Handcuff their arms behind their back 
• Cuff their legs together
• Use a spreader bar for their wrists and ankles 

• Use shibari bondage rope to restrain their movement 
• Make them wear a blindfold for sensory deprivation 
• Mummification - wrap restraint 
• Use a bondage collar with a leather leash 
• Use a metal cage for the day
• Make them wear a leather or rubber ball gag
• Tie them to a wooden or leather chair with their arms, torso and legs
• Use an under-the-bed-restraint to tie them to a bed with their arms and legs spread
• Tie them up while they are kneeling and having to serve you through oral sex 
• Alternatively to bondage rope, you may use bondage tape to restrain them 
• Invest into BDSM furniture specialized in restraining them - such as BDSM benches or an Andreas Kreuz

Orgasm Control BDSM Punishments

• Make them sit on a sex machine until they orgasm 
• Deny them an orgasm for a certain amount of days 
• Alternatively, create a goal or achievement they must accomplish until they get to orgasm again
• Make them choose another punishment every time they decide to orgasm
• Use a clit vibrator or dildo vibrator to force an orgasm over and over again 
• Restrict their use or watch time of pornographic material 
• Make a schedule for them during what hours of every day or week they are allowed to orgasm - maybe even give them one or two 10 minute windows each week to build up the suspense.
• Mandate an orgasm quota - a limit under which they must stay in a certain time frame. 
• Use a stroking sex machine to force an orgasm 
• Have them wear an app controlled vibrator for a day, tease them with it but don't let them orgasm
• Edge your submissive to orgasm multiple times only to let them hanging for another couple of hours
• Use a chastity device to prevent them from masturbating
• Only allow them to orgasm when you are present
  

(Difficult) Tasks & Chores BDSM Punishments

• Instruct them to count rice grains 

• Make them hold a round ball (golf or ping pong) to the wall with their nose 
• Force them to hold up 10 small metal coins against a wall with only their fingers (harder than it sounds) 
• Instruct them to iron all your clothing items, including your socks !
• Make them fill water from one bucket to another using only a teaspoon 
• Make them circle all the small “e” and square the capital “E” in a magazine or newsletter page 
• Give them chores they hate to do in the household 
• Instruct them to write you a good morning text (or send a lingerie picture) at a specific time of the day every day - punish them if they fail 
• If you have a garden, give them scissors and make them trim a portion of the lawn to a specific length you want it to be. 
• Instruct them to write down what they did wrong 200 - 500 times 
• Let them polish your shoes for you
• Force them to cut and trim your nails, and paint them - punish them if they do a terrible job

Public & Private Humiliation BDSM Punishments

All public play should be non-sexual and should only happen when NO children are around. 

• Wear a t-shirt with a degrading label on it - “Whore”, “Cum Slut”, etc. 
• No underwear while out in public 
• Make them cross dress in public 
• Make them wear a tiny bikini at the beach after impact play 
• Let them announce something in public that is embarrassing 
• Force them to hold your coat/ belongings for you while you are out 
• They wear a vibrator you can control from the distance while they are out in public 
• Instruct them to wear a butt plug while they are at work 
• Make them wear a posture collar out in public 
• Instruct them to introduce themselves as your submissive at kink parties 
• Punish them for bad cooking 
• Make them clean you in the shower, dry you off and apply lotion to your body
• Your submissive is your naked servant for the day - cooking, cleaning, etc. 
• Write embarrassing names and insults on their body with a marker (body safe marker)  
• Force them to apologize to you on their knees and beg for forgiveness
• Stand in a corner for a certain amount of time
• Shush them with a bar of soap
• Instruct them to give you a rim job
• The submissive needs to wear a pacifier while at home
• Eyes down unless told otherwise
• Force them to eat out of a bowl like a pet
• Eat food from their naked body
• Cum on their panties and force them to wear them during the day
• Golden shower
• Try out pet play as a puppy or kitten