compatibility Test For Couples With 72 Questions

❤️ What is the Couples Compatibility Test

This compatibility test for couples is a simple and quick way for you and your partner to explore how well your values, preferences, and communication styles align. Both of you answer the same set of questions independently, ensuring you can answer honestly without being judged. The results we send you will include all questions, including the mismatches, so that you can discuss them and work on differences. We will also give you a percentage of how many questions you matched on as a fun bonus. 

If you don't want to take the couples compatibility test, you can also skip ahead to the questions. 

📋 72 Questions Sorted into 9 Categories 

We came up with 72 questions organized into nine key categories—Relationship Dynamics, Trust, Lifestyle & Living, Food & Drinks, Family & Children, Career & Finances, Sex & Intimacy, Values & Worldview, and Social Life. The way we came up with these questions is by looking at studies that analyzed topics and issues most couples fight about. You can answer them all for a deep‑dive into your compatibility, or skip any you’re not comfortable with (or if 72 feels like too many). Each category explores a different dimension of your partnership, from how you handle conflict and communication to your shared vision for home life, financial priorities, and social preferences. 

🎁 The quiz is 100% Free To Take!

👉 How To Take The Compatibility Test For Couples

Click “Start Quiz” to create your personal couples link. Important: Share this link to your partner first, then click the link yourself. Be sure you both use the identical generated link—otherwise your responses won’t sync, and you won’t receive your matching results.

It is very important you answer honestly, rather than what you think your partner wants to hear. Equally important is that you put yourself into a mindset of excepting your partner's answers and committing to discussing them in an adult way. 

Interpreting Your Results Together

When you review your results, remember that this couples compatibility test is meant to spark meaningful conversation—not conflict. It’s perfectly normal to see a lower match rate (most couples score between 40 % and 60 %, and anything above 60 % is fantastic), so don’t let the numbers discourage you. Instead, use any surprising or unexpected answers as an invitation to ask your partner to share their perspective: listen fully, resist the urge to interrupt or defend, and honor what they’re telling you. Focus your discussion on discovering where you can find common ground, identifying which differences you’re both willing to compromise on and where your boundaries lie, rather than assigning blame. And if you uncover deeper issues or simply want extra support, consider bringing certain results to a counselor or coach who can help you navigate and grow together.

Overview Of The Questions

Here is a list of all the questions asked in the couples compatibility test.

💑 Relationship Dynamics

How much alone time do you need in a relationship?
1) A lot
2) Occasionally
3) Almost none

Do you believe in complete honesty or occasional white lies?
White lie = harmless lie told to avoid hurting someone's feelings.
1) Complete honesty always
2) Occasional white lies are okay

How important are shared hobbies or interests?
1) Not important at all
2) Somewhat important
3) Very important

Would you be open to couples therapy or coaching in general?
1) Definitely
2) Maybe
3) No

What’s your ideal amount of quality time per week?
1) Daily
2) A few days a week
3) Once a week

Do you prefer direct communication or soft/indirect?
Soft / indirect communication is a style in which you convey your point without stating it bluntly or head-on.
1) Very direct
2) Balanced
3) Mostly soft/indirect

What is your love language?
1) Words of affirmation
2) Acts of service
3) Giving gifts
4) Quality time
5) Physical touch

If I’m not getting enough attention, I…
1) Don’t really notice
2) Am annoyed but will not bring it up
3) Feel hurt quickly and confront my partner

How do you handle conflict — head-on or with space?
1) Address it immediately and directly
2) Need some time before discussing
3) Prefer to avoid conflict altogether

Are you more logic- or emotion-driven in conflict?
1) Logic-driven, focus on facts
2) Emotion-driven, focus on feelings
3) Try to balance both

How easy is it for you to talk about your feelings?
1) Very easy—I share emotions freely
2) I’ll open up if prompted
3) I struggle to articulate feelings

🔒Trust

Phones – How comfortable are you sharing phone passwords or letting your partner scroll your phone?
1) Never, my phone is private
2) Fine, if asked first
3) We already know each other’s passcodes

How jealous are you in a relationship?
1) Not at all
2) Occasionally jealous
3) Very jealous

How comfortable are you with your partner having close friends of the gender he is attracted to?
1) Completely comfortable
2) Depends on context / frequency
3) Not okay with it

What do you consider cheating?
1) Only physical sexual contact
2) Emotional closeness + secrecy counts too
3) Even brief attraction or fantasy feels like betrayal

Casual flirting with others (no intent to pursue) is…
1) Harmless and fun
2) Makes me uncomfortable
3) Totally unacceptable

🏡 Lifestyle & Living

Dream home base?
1) City
2) Suburb
3) Countryside

Do you want to own or rent long-term?
1) Own
2) Rent
3) Open to either

What’s your preferred level of household tidiness?
1) I very tidy
2) I like things tidy but a little mess is fine
3) I’m messy

How many pets do you want?
0
1
2
3+

Cat vs Dog?
1) Cat
2) Dog
3) Both
4) Neither

Do you prefer spontaneous weekends or planned routines?
1) Spontaneous
2) Balanced mix
3) Mostly planned

What are your expectations around dividing household responsibilities?
1) Split 50/50
2) Traditional roles (e.g., one cooks, one earns)
3) We hire help or outsource when possible

Indoor temperature comfort
1) I’m usually cold and turn the heat up
2) I neither get cold nor hot
3) I’m usually hot and lower the thermostat

Your punctuality style:
1) Always early
2) Generally on time with a few close calls
3) Often run late

My preferred bedtime is…
1) Before 22:00 (10pm)
2) 22:00 – 24:00 (10pm - 12pm)
3) 00:00 – 02:00 (12pm - 2am)

Vacation budget preference?
1) Budget-friendly
2) Moderate comfort
3) Luxury

When do you usually lock in the details for a vacation?
1) Spontaneous
2) Book 2 – 3 months in advance
3) Plan 6+ months ahead

What kind of vacations do you prefer?
1) Stay at home and relax
2) Beach vacation
3) Action filled vacation

🍕Food & Drinks

Do you prefer to cook at home or go to a restaurant?
1) Cook at home
2) Go out to a restaurant
3) Order takeout and stay in

What best describes your everyday diet?
1) Omnivore (no restrictions)
2) Vegetarian
3) Vegan
4) Pescatarian

How adventurous are you with new foods?
1) I’ll try almost anything once
2) I am open to trying new food occasionally
3) I don't like trying new food

What is your stance on alcohol?
1) Regularly enjoy it
2) Occasionally
3) Rarely drink alcohol

How important is eating dinner together at the table?
1) Very important — most nights
2) Nice when possible, but not required
3) I prefer to eat solo / whenever hungry

How important is it to you that your partner maintains a healthy lifestyle?
1) Not important at all
2) Somewhat important
3) Very important

When a minor problem happens at a restaurant, you usually…
1) Speak to the manager immediately
2) Politely raise the issue with staff
3) Let it go and keep eating

Attitude toward leftover drinks and food waste
1) I hate and avoid waste at any cost
2) I sometimes throw away leftovers
3) I Frequently throw away leftovers

👶 Family & Children

How many kids do you want?
0,1,2,3,4,5+

When would you ideally like to start a family?
1) As soon as possible
2) Within the next 1–3 years
3) In 4–6 years
4) Later in life
5) I’m not sure I want children

Do you want to have a biological child or adopt?
1) Biological
2) Adopt
3) Both fine with me

Who should stay home with kids, if anyone?
1) One parent should stay home full-time
2) Both should work part-time
3) No one — we’ll get a nanny

Would you be comfortable hiring a nanny to help raise our children?
1) Yes
2) No, I prefer to raise them ourselves

What parenting style or philosophy most resonates with you?
1) Few rules
2) Balanced rules
3) Strict rules

What schooling model do you envision for your children?
1) Public school
2) Private school
3) Religious school
4) Home-schooling

How important is being close to extended family?
1) Not important at all
2) Somewhat important
3) Very important

How important is regularly spending time with family (yours or your partner’s)?
1) Not important at all
2) Somewhat important
3) Very important

Relatives – How often would you like us to spend time with extended family?
1) A couple of times a year
2) Monthly
3) Weekly

What are your thoughts on friends or relatives staying overnight?
1) Don't like it
2) Monthly is fine
3) Love hosting, the guest room is always open

💵 Career & Finances

Which matters more to you: Career or Family?
1) Career
2) Family
3) Both equally

Would you relocate for a partner’s career?
1) Yes, without hesitation
2) Yes, if it makes sense
3) No, I’m not willing to relocate

How do you feel when your partner works long hours?
1) Not bothered at all
2) Slightly annoyed
3) Very annoyed

Should couples combine finances or keep them separate?
1) Fully combined
2) Mostly combined, with some personal spending
3) Separate

What percentage of your combined salary should you save?
1) 0-10 %
2) 10–20 %
3) 20–35 %
4) Over 35 %

How would you describe your money-management style?
1) Saver
2) Healthy mix of both
3) Spender

What are your biggest financial priorities?
1) Saving for a home
2) Travel and experiences
3) Kids and family expenses
4) Cool Stuff

Are you fine with one partner starting a business?
1) Yes, I’d fully support it
2) Maybe, depends on risk
3) No, it feels too unstable

How important is being “wealthy” to you?
1) Not important at all
2) Somewhat important
3) Very important

💋 Sex & Intimacy

How important is sex in a relationship to you?
1) Not important at all
2) Somewhat important
3) Very important

How often would you ideally have sex?
1) Daily
2) A few times a week
3) Once a week
4) A few times a month

Are you more vanilla or kinky?
1) Fully vanilla
2) Balanced mix
3) Kinky

Do you enjoy talking openly about sexual desires?
1) Yes, I love it
2) A bit shy, but open to trying
3) Not really comfortable

Do you believe in trying new things and experimenting?
1) Yes, the more, the better
2) A little
3) No

How would you rate your current level of sexual curiosity?
1) Very curious and adventurous
2) Somewhat curious
3) Not curious at all

How do you feel about a partner watching pornography solo?
1) Totally fine
2) I accept it, but I prefer they'd not
3) Not acceptable at all

🌍 Values & Worldview

Is it important to you that your partner shares your religious beliefs?
1) Not important at all
2) Somewhat important
3) Very important

Do you believe in marriage?
1) Yes, strongly
2) Maybe someday
3) No, I don’t believe in it

Is it important to you that your partner shares your political beliefs?
1) Not important at all
2) Somewhat important
3) Very important

🎭 Social Life

How often should couples socialize together with friends?
1) Regularly (2-3 times per week)
2) Occasionally (3-4 times per month)
3) Rarely (1-2 times per month)

Are you more introverted or extroverted?
1) Extroverted, I gain energy from socializing
2) Introverted, I prefer solitude
3) I can be both

Do you prefer big events or cozy one-on-one time?
1) Big events and parties
2) Small gatherings with close friends
3) One-on-one time with my partner

How important is having mutual friends?
1) Very important, shared friends strengthen our bond
2) Somewhat important, but not essential
3) Not important, we can have separate friends

Screen time together – Using phones or tablets while we’re hanging out is…
1) Totally fine, multitask away
2) Minimal phone use is ok
3) Phones away, I want undivided attention

I hope these questions were helpful to your relationship, and you consider taking the couples compatibility test to get all the results and a compatibility percentage!

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