What Is Bondage? - Complete Guide

What is Bondage? 

Bondage is the “B” in BDSM, which means it sits under the larger BDSM umbrella. As a simple definition, bondage is consensual restraint—using things like rope, straps, cuffs, or tape—to intentionally limit someone’s movement. Light bondage can be a great way to explore BDSM because it doesn’t strictly have to involve dominance and submission, and it can also be done purely for the sake of the art itself.

Bondage can take different forms depending on how it’s used and how it feels. It can be physical, where the goal is immobilizing someone, or symbolic, where the restraint is lighter and more about creating the feeling of control without fully restricting movement. 

In rope bondage, the roles are usually described with specific terms. The rigger is the person doing the tying or applying the restraint, while the rope bottom (or simply the bottom) is the person being tied.

Rope Bondage vs. Shibari vs. Kinbaku 

In everyday kink spaces, people often use the words shibari and kinbaku in slightly different ways, so it’s completely normal to see overlap in how they’re used. A simple way to frame it is that rope bondage is the broad category, while shibari and kinbaku are specific traditions or styles within rope work.

Shibari is often used to describe Japanese-inspired rope aesthetics, patterns, lines, symmetry, and visual “rope art.” It commonly highlights presentation, meaning how the rope looks and how it sits on the body, whereas general rope bondage can be more purely functional and restraint-first. Kinbaku, meanwhile, is commonly associated with a more intimate, and erotic approach to rope.

In modern practice, many people blend approaches rather than sticking to one strict definition. You can have rope that looks beautiful and also restrains, or you can keep the rope minimal and focus more on sensation, depending on the style and intention.

Why People Enjoy Bondage

People enjoy bondage for a wide range of reasons, and for many it starts with the feeling of being held or contained. Restraint can feel grounding, like a firm hug that quiets the brain and body, while also creating comfort in the structure bondage brings through clear rules, clear roles, and clear boundaries that can feel emotionally safe and surprisingly freeing. That same sense of safety often ties directly into trust, because the act of being tied up requires supreme communication and can help strengthen the bond with a partner.

For others, the appeal is in surrender, sometimes without “submission,” where giving up movement feels good even with no D/s dynamic involved, and sometimes with “submission,” where being dominated is intensified by the added sensation of being immobilized and unable to move. That loss of easy control can also feed into erotic helplessness: the excitement of not being able to easily change position, or take charge.

Bondage can also heighten the body’s sensory experience through the rope itself. The typical shibari rope can feel amazing on the skin. The texture, warmth, and gentle friction add a constant, grounding layer of sensation. Different materials change the experience too: cotton tends to feel softer, while jute/hemp can feel more textured and “alive” against the skin. Natural-fiber ropes often have a warm, earthy scent, jute and hemp can smell subtly woody or hay-like, and that “real” aroma can make the experience feel more primal and immersive. 

With fewer options to move, touch, breath, temperature, and sound can feel more intense, and the combination of pressure, stillness, and adrenaline can create endorphins and body chemistry shifts that produce a natural “buzz” or floaty relaxation. For some people, this becomes mindfulness or “rope trance,” where repetitive tying, steady breathing, and stillness feel meditative for both partners. 

There’s also a strong creative and intentional side to bondage. Aesthetics and artistry, rope patterns, harnesses, and gear, can feel beautiful, like a wearable design on the body. Bondage can be an essential part of roleplay too. Examples are roleplay themes like capture, punish, “hands-free teasing,” or prisoner interrogation.

Finally, enjoyment can come from the experience of skill and care itself, especially for riggers. For them, the satisfaction may not only come from the end result, but also from the learned technique, attention, and the process of creating a good experience for their partner. 

Types of Bondage

Bondage can take many forms! Here are the most common ones: 

Soft rope bondage focuses on comfort and the sensation of the rope on the skin, using snug wraps and gentle immobilization to create a cozy, “held” feeling. 

Strict rope bondage, on the other hand, focuses on stronger immobility where restraint is the main goal rather than simply the sensation of rope.

Some rope styles are primarily about aesthetics. Decorative rope harnesses are chest, waist, or hip “outfits” designed mainly for visual effect and art. While they can feel containing, they’re typically not meant to seriously immobilize. 

At the more intense end of the spectrum, full-body restraint aims to immobilize the submissive completely by tying multiple limbs together, such as arms, torso, and legs. Because of their complexity, they usually call for more planning, more check-ins, and more experience. Apart from immobilizing the sub, they can also be used to force them to hold a certain posture or position, as a punishment, for pleasure, for slut training etc. 

Minimal restraint ties offer a simpler, more focused kind of restriction by immobilizing only a few body parts, such as wrists together or legs together. They are great for beginners. 

Outside of rope, other tools can create restraint quickly and in distinctive ways. Handcuffs are quick and easy. 

Chains can feel heavy, intense, and visually powerful, but they’re usually better suited for experienced users because the weight and potential pinch points can add risk.

For people who want fast, full body restraint without complex knots, under-the-bed restraint sets can create a stable “spread” position with minimal setup. 

Bondage tape is another quick option, since it typically sticks to itself rather than skin, making it fast to apply and often easier to remove than people expect. 

Bondage collars can function as a form of psychological restraint, signaling “you’re mine” or “you’re collared.” 

A leather locking collar fastens with a lock (often a small padlock) to create a stronger sense of symbolic restraint and commitment than a standard buckle collar. It’s not usually about limiting movement, but about clearly signaling roles, rules, or ownership

Posture Collars can be used to restrain the movement of the neck or for sensory deprivation. 

Leashes and spreader bars are also commonly used as part of bondage setups.

Armbinders restrain the arms behind the back, usually by holding the forearms together and limiting shoulder movement. 

Learning Bondage Knots 

The Best Way To Learn Knots

Photo guides can work, but they can be difficult to follow. There are two ways I recommend learning knots: through video guides, and through in-person workshops taught by trained riggers. Here are a couple of free and paid options where you can learn beginner-to-advanced knots.

Free Resources: 

• A German YouTube Playlist On Beginner Bondage - Follow along and use the English Auto subtitles 

Paid Courses: 

• Coming Soon 
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Names Of Common Knots

If you opt for learning knots through YouTube videos or internet step-by-step tutorials, here is a list with common knots you can research. 

Beginner

• Overhand knot
• Figure-eight knot
• Bowline
• Lark’s head
• Cow hitch
• Girth hitch
• Clove hitch
• Half hitch
• Two half hitches
• Sheet bend

Intermediate

• Yosemite bowline
• Double bowline
• Bowline on a bight
• Trucker’s hitch
• Constrictor knot
• Alpine butterfly
• Rolling hitch
• Munter hitch
• Fisherman’s knot
• Double sheet bend

Advanced

• Figure-eight follow-through
• Handcuff knot
• Prusik knot
• Klemheist knot
• Double fisherman’s knot
• Water knot
• Carrick bend
• Anchor bend

Staying Safe During Bondage Sessions

Consent, communication, RACK/SSC

Consent and communication are the foundation of bondage, and it’s important to negotiate before anything starts. That means being clear about what you’re doing, what you’re not doing, and what “stop” looks like, so there’s no confusion in the moment. Enthusiastic consent matters here too: both people should actively want it, not just go along with it with an “I guess.”

Two common frameworks people use are SSC and RACK. SSC stands for Safe, Sane, and Consensual, which focuses on basic safety and clear consent. RACK stands for Risk-Aware Consensual Kink, which emphasizes acknowledging that there are risks, agreeing to them anyway, and managing them responsibly.

It’s also important to use a safeword, including both a verbal and a non-verbal one, so communication stays clear even if someone can’t speak easily.

Blood Circulation & Nerves

When you restrain someone with rope, it’s possible to accidentally restrict blood flow or put pressure on nerves. A simple way to prevent this is to regularly check a few clear signs during the session.

First, ask the rope bottom to tell you immediately if they feel numbness, tingling or a sensation of “pins and needles” and if they do, loosen the tie and if the sensation does not go away untie them immediately. Also pay attention to visible changes: if the skin looks cold, pale, blue-ish, or swollen, stop and untie them. Same if they feel any sort of pain. 

Safety Checklists For Beginners

• Safety shears (EMT-style) within reach → cuts rope/tape fast without poking skin (your #1 tool)

• Spare keys (for cuffs/locks) within reach → keep them in a known, reachable spot (not across the room)
• Timer/clock set → helps track time restrained and prompts regular check-ins
• Phone + light source ready → to see knots, check skin color, and handle emergencies
• Sober-ish headspace → don’t tie when drunk/high or emotionally flooded
• Comfort check-ins → ask: “0–10, how are you?” and “Anything pinching or tingling?”
• Never leave someone tied alone → not even “for a minute”
• No rope around the neck → high risk; not beginner play
• No tying when angry → never use bondage to “prove a point”
• Don’t copy porn as instruction → porn shows visuals, not safety practices or prep

Reading Their Body Language

Reading body language is a key part of safe rope play, and there are a few signs that should prompt you to check in with your rope bottom and care for them. 

• Changes in breathing are one of the most noticeable; shallow breathing, a held breath, or a sudden switch to fast breathing can all signal discomfort or overwhelm. 
• Visible tension is another clear cue, such as a clenched jaw, tight shoulders, or a rigid posture that looks more braced than relaxed.
• You should also pay attention to how they respond to touch. Flinching or pulling away can be a sign something doesn’t feel right. 
• A kind of quietness that feels “checked out” rather than calm can mean they are not doing okay.
• Physical symptoms like dizziness, nausea, sweating, shaking, or looking pale are also signals to pause and check in. 
• Finally, if they seem to be “spacing out” in a distressed way; confusion, glassy eyes, or delayed responses; that’s another strong indicator to stop and make sure they are okay.

Aftercare

• Always take time for aftercare - cuddling, talking, applying lotion to the skin etc.